I have been doing a lot of soul searching lately and have come up with one of my, what I believe to be, a fundamental soul lesson this time round....
How much personal responsibility is to much? In other words, how much "stuff" do you own and take on, and how much "stuff" is the other persons? I struggle with this in my relationships every day, both personal and work. To break free from "victim consciousness" you need to truly look within yourself to see how you are creating the situation. In other words, instead of saying, well, that's your problem, I ask myself, well, why am I creating this, and what is the belief that's creating it? You have to become truly honest with yourself. Harry Palmer, author of Living Deliberately, talks about "treating others dishonestly invariably results in a lowering of respect for them. Friends we have discarded, we have first deceived. The same applies to the respect we have for ourselves and our lost selves. Dishonesty is at the root of asserted self-importance."
He goes on to state "being honest is really a question of courage - courage enough to face what we fear." So what do I fear? Maybe being vulnerable, because if I am, my belief is that "they" will hurt me - victim consciousness. The truth is, nothing can hurt me unless I allow it. The trap is that I have to assume ownership for not only my own fear and dishonesty, but the worlds as well. "We are all dishonest as long as we do not compassionately work to correct the collective dishonesty of the world... becoming more honest with ourselves means introducing more honesty into the collective consciousness of the world".
I believe that this will shift and increase integrity, compassion and appreciation as well. This is the work of Transcendent Leaders and Transcendent Leadership.
Thanks for reading,
Lisa
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